How To Get Yourself Unstuck
We all have areas of our lives that need some form of improvement or upgrade so to speak. There are many times when you know that you need to change the way you do things or to improve how you do things, but end up suffering from what I would call ‘a paralysis of analysis’. You analyze every angle of the situation so much that you end up feeling confused. If you don’t ‘catch yourself in the act’ and stop, you will end up stuck. You will see all the good reasons why you should go ahead with an idea that you have in mind but at the same time, you will find a thousand other reasons why it is not a good idea. You just get stuck. But not just yet, you got to keep moving.
There is a need to see some light shining on the path that you want to take; you want to know the whole plan, from A to Z how things will go, you want to have it all figured out, but you can’t. I have come to learn that sometimes all we can see are bits and pieces. If you wait to have it all figured out you may never start, so many times, the only way to start is to just START! Start against your ‘best’ judgment, knowing full well you could fail but also that you could attain tremendous success. Just focus on why you should do it and keep going.
The battle with the inner voice
Of the many battles we all face, perhaps the greatest is the battle with the inner voice. One moment you will be all excited making progress on a task at hand, the next you will be debating on whether you should be doing it in the first place. There seems to be this constant battle inside of you questioning all the decisions you make. You keep wondering whether you bit more than you can chew or you just feel like the task is too big for you. There seems to always be one voice saying you can do it and another making you doubt yourself.
Someone called it the battle between a white dog and a grey dog inside of you. The white dog symbolizes the part of your mind that urges you to do good and sees things from a positive side. It’s the voice of perseverance urging you to just do the right thing because it is the right thing to do. The one that tells you that you can make it when everything seems bleak. It is the voice of hope.
The grey dog, on the other hand, symbolizes the part of your mind that sees all the negative and criticizes everything. It is the part that likes it easy, the voice that says it is too risky, too dangerous or too hard. The one that would rather you take the easy route or a shortcut, even when you know it’s not necessarily the right one. It is the one that incites fear and mentally cripples you.
Ultimately, each one of us has both dogs. The quality of your decisions is determined by the dog you listen to, whether it is the white one or the grey one. Whichever one you chose to listen to, you empower and it barks louder the next time.
Let your white dog bark loudest
It would be great to have the white dog win all the time and it’s what we aspire to because with it’s winning comes the endless possibility of what one can achieve. However, this is not always the case. There are many times before in my life that the grey dog has won.
I will doubt myself so much and end up feeling like I cannot be able to accomplish much. Or sometimes, I begin a task and get discouraged mid-task and leave it uncompleted. All because I listened to the wrong voice telling me that I am not up to the task and instilling fear in me. I am usually very excited at the beginning of new ventures, but if I don’t carry on the task to completion it is not long before I recoil my tail and don’t want to talk about it. It is not a very good feeling I tell you.
Set the right precedent- whatever you do more, you magnify
I have learned that with every accomplishment comes motivation to do more. Similar to failure, if you don’t learn your lesson and pick yourself up, one failure can set a precedent for more failure. If you are leaving tasks half-done, you set yourself up for more half-done tasks. Whatever you do more, you magnify.
Just observe yourself, if you start your morning by not doing a task that you had planned to do, as the day goes by, there will be many other tasks that you will fail to accomplish. But if you start your day by honoring your promises to yourself, and accomplishing what you said you would, you will fuel the rest of your day for accomplishment. Such are the days that we wake up on the right foot, you just seem to be cruising through the day, one accomplishment after another. It is therefore very important to set the right precedents in your everyday life.
How many opportunities have you allowed to pass you by because self-doubt got in your way? In retrospect, you realize that it would have been a perfect fit for you. If only you got past the initial doubt and fear. How many things have you started and failed to complete because you developed cold feet midway? I wonder what would have happened if I went through with all the brilliant ideas that I gave up on when the going got tough. I think you and I can do better at not only starting but staying the course.
Related article: 4 practical tips to build your confidence and overcome self-doubt
Do better, feed your white dog
In the coming year, let us purpose to do better. Let us feed our white dogs more because it is the right thing to do. We can do this by watching and reading material that will influence us positively. Watch motivational videos, read books that challenge you to grow and watch out for who you associate with.
Read my article on the top 5 personal development books that have transformed my life some of which were featured here.
Do not surround yourself with people that are constantly discouraging you or belittling your dreams. Surround yourself with people that share your vision, people who also want to grow and are willing to put in the required work.
Stay away from people who are constantly complaining. Such people have too much negative energy and it will rub off on you. Let me say that again, please be careful who you are spending most of your time with. They really determine who you become more than you realize. As the old saying goes, show me your friends and I will show you who you are.
Above everything else, make sure you start. Whatever it is that you have been meaning to do, just start. The vision will get clearer along the way. If you start you may succeed but if you don’t, you have no chance whatsoever.
So, by all means, start and don’t just start, stay the course to the very end even when it gets tough.Don’t just start, stay the course to the very end even when it gets tough.Click To Tweet
To a better year ahead!
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